Sharks... the movie JAWS... need I say more? I don't even go in the ocean anymore.
But I love to swim, it's pretty sad (
That is pretty much my only fear since I feel as if I have control over pretty much anything else.
Fear
Its been brought up a couple times but its an inherent emotion that is so deeply rooted in our psyche that even as adults we fear what we cannot see.
Fear of the dark. Small spaces. Water. Fire. Clowns? Name your fear and the story that undoubtedly goes with it. :shock:
ssoulz
21 years ago
Nektar
21 years ago
Oh God, I hate clowns. My mother used to sit me in front of horror movies as a kid. Stephen King's It struck a nerve for some reason. Must have gotten tons of nightmares.
Roller coasters. Used to love them, but then my father took me to Space Mountain in Disneyworld. From what I remember, no safety belts, just handles. And it was pitch black. I was something like 6 years old. Then I went to La Ronde with Angevil some 2 years ago. He said he was gunna shove his fist down my throat if I didn't try the Vampire. So I did, and loved roller coasters all over again :-P
This is all trivial tough. Both phobias are gone. My one big fear is rejection. Women normally have to chase after me, but I've passed up too many opportunities in the process.
That's because I had it easy in high school. They were lining up and shit. Doesn't work as well in Montreal. Can flirt np, but it's that one moment I decide to step it up that scares me.
Roller coasters. Used to love them, but then my father took me to Space Mountain in Disneyworld. From what I remember, no safety belts, just handles. And it was pitch black. I was something like 6 years old. Then I went to La Ronde with Angevil some 2 years ago. He said he was gunna shove his fist down my throat if I didn't try the Vampire. So I did, and loved roller coasters all over again :-P
This is all trivial tough. Both phobias are gone. My one big fear is rejection. Women normally have to chase after me, but I've passed up too many opportunities in the process.
That's because I had it easy in high school. They were lining up and shit. Doesn't work as well in Montreal. Can flirt np, but it's that one moment I decide to step it up that scares me.
Rikr
21 years ago
Big fear of heights. Maybe it's not so much the fear of the height, but the fear of falling to my death, or having to walk down that roller coaster if it gets stuck at the top of the hill. :)
drizzi
21 years ago
heights, but i feel safe in rollercoasters.
dropping into a halfpipe first time was scary.
dropping into a halfpipe first time was scary.
Gilae
21 years ago
Only fear I have is that of being alone...or I should say the only unusual, unhealthy fear. I have a normal amount of fear of friends being hurt and death...and I'm not one who enjoys scary movies and what not...but nothing that I dwell on to any extent.
My husband is scared of clowns too Nektar. We drove into a really bad part of town in Chicago and I was concerned about getting shot. He didn't get scared until he looked in his rear view mirror and saw a clown driving a car and he freaked out. What can I say? I married a very strange man.
My husband is scared of clowns too Nektar. We drove into a really bad part of town in Chicago and I was concerned about getting shot. He didn't get scared until he looked in his rear view mirror and saw a clown driving a car and he freaked out. What can I say? I married a very strange man.
ROzbeans
21 years ago
I grew up with an unhealthy fear of rape. Very disturbing for me. I guess its the fear of being over powered. I hated walking thru a gaggle of men and being looked at. Yes I see the irony there, lol. It started when I watched this kung fu movie with my brother and this woman was raped and she died. I was probably 7. After that...god to this day I cannot watch a movie with rape in it. I will get up and walk out of the movie theatre or just turn off the movie. Its amazing how desensitized TV is now, I've flipped thru channels and actually caught a rape scene halfthru and by then you can't turn away, its like a car accident. One movie that upset me the most was 'Prince of Tides'. /shudder, dont even want to go there.
However, my fear of strange men has seem to have gone away. As I've grown older and had a child, its not about me anymore but about protecting my daughter. I know if anyone ever tried to hurt my daughter...well there are no words for that kind of rage. I walk and live with a purpose now and strange places dont bother me in the least. I used to never make eye contact either, but I'm bolder than I should be. Fuck I'm in alaska, I could take em here. :teehee
I still can't watch movies with rape though. Part preference and part fear.
However, my fear of strange men has seem to have gone away. As I've grown older and had a child, its not about me anymore but about protecting my daughter. I know if anyone ever tried to hurt my daughter...well there are no words for that kind of rage. I walk and live with a purpose now and strange places dont bother me in the least. I used to never make eye contact either, but I'm bolder than I should be. Fuck I'm in alaska, I could take em here. :teehee
I still can't watch movies with rape though. Part preference and part fear.
ssoulz
21 years ago
That's kinda odd you said that mae. Yet another one of my stories incoming, you might not want to read if you have a weak stomach. I have had a few girl friends who have been raped and I can't imagine their horror. I am not physically aggressive with women at all because I don't want them to ever feel even in the least that I could do something like that. I tend to be very gruff and raw when it comes to most things but when it comes to women, I tend to be overly gentle.
There is a deeper reason due to something I overheard as a kid that no kid ever should have to hear that is probably the real root of why I tend to be so gentle with women and it had to do with rape. I was too young to do anything about it but tear up and try not to cry. I've personally never been involved in anything like that but just from hearing a rape as a kid, I always wondered how a woman could be raped yet still go home with strangers as if it never happened, as if they have nothing to fear.
These kids on my old block raped this girl in an abandoned house and cut off one of her breasts and shoved it in her mouth to keep her quiet. Or atleast that was the story that was published in the news papers. I never could understand how people could do such a thing. I mean I understand fighting, killing, and violence but never when it comes to women... even when it's over a woman unless it's a family matter.
I call women hoes and bitches all the time but a real woman would never hear such a thing from my mouth being directed her way.
There is a deeper reason due to something I overheard as a kid that no kid ever should have to hear that is probably the real root of why I tend to be so gentle with women and it had to do with rape. I was too young to do anything about it but tear up and try not to cry. I've personally never been involved in anything like that but just from hearing a rape as a kid, I always wondered how a woman could be raped yet still go home with strangers as if it never happened, as if they have nothing to fear.
These kids on my old block raped this girl in an abandoned house and cut off one of her breasts and shoved it in her mouth to keep her quiet. Or atleast that was the story that was published in the news papers. I never could understand how people could do such a thing. I mean I understand fighting, killing, and violence but never when it comes to women... even when it's over a woman unless it's a family matter.
I call women hoes and bitches all the time but a real woman would never hear such a thing from my mouth being directed her way.
Linus
21 years ago
rodents. from mice to chipmunks to anything smaller than my foot.
Aziyade
21 years ago
That is really horrible Ssoulz. :(
As far as my own phobia: insects, crickets especially. I once did a back flip over a papasan chair, and nearly went through a sliding glass door to get away from one.
I was born with an innate terror of heights, the only time I would scream or cry as a baby was when my father would try to toss me up in the air. I got over it when I was 5 and my 8 year old cousin put me on a swing and wouldn't stop pushing me, eventually I realized that it wasn't going to hurt me and it was kinda fun, I was cured.
So, I know fear can be overcome by facing it, but I view my entemephobia as a personality quirk that makes me who I am so I am going to hang on to it... for now anyway.
In my opinion, fear is a form of self preservation. Being afraid make us more cautious of situations where we may come to harm.
As far as my own phobia: insects, crickets especially. I once did a back flip over a papasan chair, and nearly went through a sliding glass door to get away from one.
I was born with an innate terror of heights, the only time I would scream or cry as a baby was when my father would try to toss me up in the air. I got over it when I was 5 and my 8 year old cousin put me on a swing and wouldn't stop pushing me, eventually I realized that it wasn't going to hurt me and it was kinda fun, I was cured.
So, I know fear can be overcome by facing it, but I view my entemephobia as a personality quirk that makes me who I am so I am going to hang on to it... for now anyway.
In my opinion, fear is a form of self preservation. Being afraid make us more cautious of situations where we may come to harm.
Sarah
21 years ago
I have a very unhealthy fear of storms. And of course that has a story. When I was 14 I was sitting in my picture window across from my step-sister and we were watching a rather beautiful storm roll in. Then our moms call up and tell us to go to bed. So we close up the windows, and go to sleep. At about 2:00 my mom comes up the stairs, slams open our door and says "Girls, sit up, get out of bed and do not turn around." Just as we were getting up two softball sized hail balls come through the planes of glass all over our beds and floor. Since then storms make me go all shivery and goose-bumpy.
Also I have a fear of roller costers. Heights I can do fine, but up down around and around, I can't.
Also I have a fear of roller costers. Heights I can do fine, but up down around and around, I can't.
Gilae
21 years ago
Mae's post kinda reminded me that while I don't really have an active fear of it, I don't watch any movies etc depicting realistic or historically accurate racial violence...or I should say the ones I have watched really disturb me to the point of nightmares. I've seen both Schindler's List and Amistad and almost wished I hadn't. I watched a documentary when I was a kid about men being dragged through the streets and hung in trees and racially mixed girls being used as prostitutes and I still have nightmares about it.
Mae, where are the posts about "what makes you happiest"? Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens...and the such like.
Mae, where are the posts about "what makes you happiest"? Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens...and the such like.
Droggen
21 years ago
I don't know what it is. But my main fear is having the one you love stab you in the back. Wether it be your family, significant other, or a really close friend.
You put so much into that one given relationship and to see it end in a way that you had no control over or have any reason to rebuild it just scares the shit out of me.
Thoughh recently talking to Roz this fear is slowly being chopped down into small pieces of being young i guess. It is always people signifcantly (shit is till cant spell and i pay for school now haha) older then me: No offense, that seem to be able to make me understand. I Was never able to take advice to this from my friends because for hte msot part we are basically geeks who have no outside interaction with people whom aren't behind a monitor or eachother in some stupid argument about the law of motion in physics or the laws of thermodynamics. I can never take advice from someone who i know is far from any expierence i have gone through.
Oh well thats my half written nonsense post. have at it
You put so much into that one given relationship and to see it end in a way that you had no control over or have any reason to rebuild it just scares the shit out of me.
Thoughh recently talking to Roz this fear is slowly being chopped down into small pieces of being young i guess. It is always people signifcantly (shit is till cant spell and i pay for school now haha) older then me: No offense, that seem to be able to make me understand. I Was never able to take advice to this from my friends because for hte msot part we are basically geeks who have no outside interaction with people whom aren't behind a monitor or eachother in some stupid argument about the law of motion in physics or the laws of thermodynamics. I can never take advice from someone who i know is far from any expierence i have gone through.
Oh well thats my half written nonsense post. have at it
Anulien
21 years ago
I am with Rikr on this one, I HATE heights. A problem i've tried to remedy with rollercoasters, bunji jumping, rock climbing and flying. I hate heights, I hate looking down, I despise the feeling of falling that comes with heights and I most of all despise the splat part that happens when things don't work out with heights.
zaura
21 years ago
When I was a kid I always had this fear that something would puncture my eyeball and I still get weirded out if people wave things in front of my face. When I became a mother, I was no longer worried about things happening to me, but I was scared to walk by open windows with my son, terrified that he would fall out the window somehow. I used to hold onto him for dear life every time we passed an open window.
I was not really afraid of rape when I was very young, unfortunately. I say unfortunately because that made me an easy target, since I never had a clue what was going to happen. I was raped when I was 7 years old and the 16 year old boy who did it convinced me that if my father ever found out what happened, he would beat the shit out of me for not being a virgin any more, and so I never told him, not about being raped or about having the shit beat out of me or about being threatened. I was more terrified that my dad would see one of the walls in the neighborhood where that guy painted, "Debbie Greene is a whore" and would beat my ass for it. Of course when I got older, I realized my dad would have been furious and violent about that, but not toward me. He would have beaten the guy who attacked me to a pulp, no doubt.
I was not really afraid of rape when I was very young, unfortunately. I say unfortunately because that made me an easy target, since I never had a clue what was going to happen. I was raped when I was 7 years old and the 16 year old boy who did it convinced me that if my father ever found out what happened, he would beat the shit out of me for not being a virgin any more, and so I never told him, not about being raped or about having the shit beat out of me or about being threatened. I was more terrified that my dad would see one of the walls in the neighborhood where that guy painted, "Debbie Greene is a whore" and would beat my ass for it. Of course when I got older, I realized my dad would have been furious and violent about that, but not toward me. He would have beaten the guy who attacked me to a pulp, no doubt.
Gilae
21 years ago
Hmm...I didn't realize you had a fear of heights...I thought it was just flying you were afraid of. Guess I wasn't too sensitive about that when you visited what with taking you to skyrise buildings and what not. Good thing the Hancock tower was closed!! :lol:
Anulien
I am with Rikr on this one, I HATE heights. A problem i've tried to remedy with rollercoasters, bunji jumping, rock climbing and flying. I hate heights, I hate looking down, I despise the feeling of falling that comes with heights and I most of all despise the splat part that happens when things don't work out with heights.
Hmm...I didn't realize you had a fear of heights...I thought it was just flying you were afraid of. Guess I wasn't too sensitive about that when you visited what with taking you to skyrise buildings and what not. Good thing the Hancock tower was closed!! :lol:
Maeya
21 years ago
I seem to have a fear of very large objects associated with the ocean. :?
Whales - hate them. Scared to death of them. I think this stemmed from when I was little and they told us you could like.. swim through a blood vessel in a whale. Didn't like that thought.
Air Craft Carriers - how do they not tip over??? And they are so huge =(
Other very large boats - I have a fear of them sinking and sucking me under the water. Thanks a lot, Titanic! :rant
Oddly enough, I'm not afraid of the ocean itself, just the big scary things in it.
Other than that, I just have the normal fears, like spiders, and scary men in dark allies.
Very interesting topic though, facinating to read all the different fears. Clowns seems to be a common one across all the various boards I visit. I think the strangest one I've read though is someone having a fear of cotton balls. =/ Haven't figured that one out yet.
Whales - hate them. Scared to death of them. I think this stemmed from when I was little and they told us you could like.. swim through a blood vessel in a whale. Didn't like that thought.
Air Craft Carriers - how do they not tip over??? And they are so huge =(
Other very large boats - I have a fear of them sinking and sucking me under the water. Thanks a lot, Titanic! :rant
Oddly enough, I'm not afraid of the ocean itself, just the big scary things in it.
Other than that, I just have the normal fears, like spiders, and scary men in dark allies.
Very interesting topic though, facinating to read all the different fears. Clowns seems to be a common one across all the various boards I visit. I think the strangest one I've read though is someone having a fear of cotton balls. =/ Haven't figured that one out yet.
Anulien
21 years ago
Gilly: lets go to the top of that really big building!
Me: they have booze?
Gilly: yes, thats why we are going to the top of that really big building!
Gilae
AnulienI am with Rikr on this one, I HATE heights. A problem i've tried to remedy with rollercoasters, bunji jumping, rock climbing and flying. I hate heights, I hate looking down, I despise the feeling of falling that comes with heights and I most of all despise the splat part that happens when things don't work out with heights.
Hmm...I didn't realize you had a fear of heights...I thought it was just flying you were afraid of. Guess I wasn't too sensitive about that when you visited what with taking you to skyrise buildings and what not. Good thing the Hancock tower was closed!! :lol:
Gilly: lets go to the top of that really big building!
Me: they have booze?
Gilly: yes, thats why we are going to the top of that really big building!
Gilae
21 years ago
Me: (skipping and oblivious) Now that I've drank half a bottle of Patron, I'm going to take you to a really big building and hang precariously off the edge of the balcony to point out all the sights of the city!! Follow me!
Anu: *gulp* Ok.
Anulien
GilaeAnulienI am with Rikr on this one, I HATE heights. A problem i've tried to remedy with rollercoasters, bunji jumping, rock climbing and flying. I hate heights, I hate looking down, I despise the feeling of falling that comes with heights and I most of all despise the splat part that happens when things don't work out with heights.
Hmm...I didn't realize you had a fear of heights...I thought it was just flying you were afraid of. Guess I wasn't too sensitive about that when you visited what with taking you to skyrise buildings and what not. Good thing the Hancock tower was closed!! :lol:
Gilly: lets go to the top of that really big building!
Me: they have booze?
Gilly: yes, thats why we are going to the top of that really big building!
Me: (skipping and oblivious) Now that I've drank half a bottle of Patron, I'm going to take you to a really big building and hang precariously off the edge of the balcony to point out all the sights of the city!! Follow me!
Anu: *gulp* Ok.
ROzbeans
21 years ago
The fear of drowning. I swear I must've almost drowned like 3 times growing up. I wasn't too smart about not swimming out deep. My brother and I were swimming at waikiki when we were like 10 and 12. I went out just a tiny bit too far and I grabbed him. VIOLENTLY. I was scared out of my mind and he thought I was fucking with him, so he swam away.
You think when you're watching tv or a movie, you see somene drowning and they're freaking out and you say to yourself, 'for fuck sakes, calm down!'. Well you cant. Not at all. The fear rips inside of you so quickly and so violently that there is no other thought, other than to try and scream with your mouth full of water. The very worst moment was when I looked out at the beach and saw my mother laying on the blanket napping. She couldnt see me. God and heaven, she couldnt see me drowning.
Finally an old man wearing a gold medallion the size of kansas pulled me out. My brother had no clue and I think he felt bad. He probably doesn't even remember this.
To this day I can barely tread water, even after taking a swimming class. I dont like the water. At all.
You think when you're watching tv or a movie, you see somene drowning and they're freaking out and you say to yourself, 'for fuck sakes, calm down!'. Well you cant. Not at all. The fear rips inside of you so quickly and so violently that there is no other thought, other than to try and scream with your mouth full of water. The very worst moment was when I looked out at the beach and saw my mother laying on the blanket napping. She couldnt see me. God and heaven, she couldnt see me drowning.
Finally an old man wearing a gold medallion the size of kansas pulled me out. My brother had no clue and I think he felt bad. He probably doesn't even remember this.
To this day I can barely tread water, even after taking a swimming class. I dont like the water. At all.
ssoulz
21 years ago
so does this mean you and I in the hot tub together is out of the question?
To this day I can barely tread water, even after taking a swimming class. I dont like the water. At all.
so does this mean you and I in the hot tub together is out of the question?