"Spiffy" Casual.
For my date on Sunday, I was requested to wear attire that could be termed "Spiffy" Casual.
I'm at a loss. I can't get a consensus on what this means, and according to several places on the 'Net, "spiffy casual" refers to dress such as "kaki's (sic) and shirt. Clean, nice, but not formal."
Looking at http://www.dresscodeguide.com/default.asp it states that "Smart casual" is collared shirt/polo/tennis, with dockers/khakis.
According to both definitions, that's what I wore for the first date.
I wore a long sleeved black button-down (short collar) with light khakis, and sneakers for comfort and common sense (we walked ~8 miles).
For work...
Our dress code is officially "Business casual" but it is relaxed 245 days out of 250, and we can wear almost anything we want, but a polo/button down and jeans are the implied "lower limit."
So I'm a bit at a loss. Should I wear something similar to what I wore on the first date? And pack something more casual?
She has said she has been having trouble decide what skirt she wants to wear... so I'm thinking that probably means "dress up" more than "jeans-casual."
If my rambling has made any sense, please let me know... I have til about 9am Sunday to get a final answer (though sooner might be nice, in case I need to get my ass out shopping)
Thanks
Verileah
18 years ago
I think something on par with what you wore for the first date works.
ROzbeans
18 years ago
I'd go with business cas - a crisp button up with no tie, bring sneakers but wear like loafers or something just a cut above nice sneakers but not uncomfortable dress shoes. Remember to bring altoids, exfoliate your skin and get a haircut.
Mileron
18 years ago
Haircut already done.
Exfoliate? Huh?
*male*
ROzbeans;80068
I'd go with business cas - a crisp button up with no tie, bring sneakers but wear like loafers or something just a cut above nice sneakers but not uncomfortable dress shoes. Remember to bring altoids, exfoliate your skin and get a haircut.
Haircut already done.
Exfoliate? Huh?
*male*
ROzbeans
18 years ago
All men should have a skin regime. It's not a girl thing. Exfoliating helps take off dead skin, promotes new growth and makes your skin look healthy, bright. If you're gonna do a thing - start exfoliating. A good cleanser, then a soft face towel and an oil free moisturizer.
Mileron
18 years ago
Well, I use a daily Clearasil wash then as I get out of the shower superheat a wash towel with water and hold it to my face for a few seconds, but I haven't used moisturizer.
ROzbeans;80071
All men should have a skin regime. It's not a girl thing. Exfoliating helps take off dead skin, promotes new growth and makes your skin look healthy, bright. If you're gonna do a thing - start exfoliating. A good cleanser, then a soft face towel and an oil free moisturizer.
Well, I use a daily Clearasil wash then as I get out of the shower superheat a wash towel with water and hold it to my face for a few seconds, but I haven't used moisturizer.
ROzbeans
18 years ago
You're opening your pores up and then letting it dry out. Do soft circular motions with the towel instead of just putting it hot on your face then use an oil free moisturizer.
Mai
18 years ago
I agree with the business casual there, Mileron. Generally speaking if you're going to err in one direction or the other then its better to be better dressed for a function than not dressed up enough. Better to be seen as too dressy than as uncouth.
Mylec
18 years ago
Yeah, I agree. If in doubt, always error to the overdressed side.
Mylec
18 years ago
P.S. Roz is trying to turn you Metro...
ROzbeans
18 years ago
Nothing wrong with that!!!
Mileron
18 years ago
I ended up wearing a black polo with tan-ish stripes, and khakis that (supposedly) matched the stripes.
T-shirt underneath the polo, and left the polo untucked. (She said it made me look taller. *shrug*)
And was able to find my actual dress shoes.
T-shirt underneath the polo, and left the polo untucked. (She said it made me look taller. *shrug*)
And was able to find my actual dress shoes.
ROzbeans
18 years ago
So where you at with this? first, second or third base? /wink
shiyla
18 years ago
i give my bf 2-3 facials a week and it looks really good.. he has tan skin and it just kinda gives him a glow and it's relaxing
Vebran
18 years ago
I'm surprised that no one picked up on this little tidbit. What do you mean you were request to wear a certain attire? If your date asked for it, it would send up all the red flags to me.
There is one thing to try and impress someone with appearing presentable, but to have someone request it as an option, that just is no good.
Mileron;80062
For my date on Sunday, I was requested to wear attire that could be termed "Spiffy" Casual.
I'm surprised that no one picked up on this little tidbit. What do you mean you were request to wear a certain attire? If your date asked for it, it would send up all the red flags to me.
There is one thing to try and impress someone with appearing presentable, but to have someone request it as an option, that just is no good.
ROzbeans
18 years ago
Remember when you wore that black and blue striped shirt that day before you asked me out? You wore it the next day again when I said it looked cute on you. Remember that, dear? :teehee
Den
18 years ago
So what if you're going on a date, but don't know where you're going...the other person has an idea though...I've had guys ask me to wear something dressy before, and I had no problem with it at all.
Mileron
18 years ago
Her original plan for that date was to go to one out of a selection of certain local specialty restaurants that have "better-than-casual" dress codes.
But, being Sunday in the middle of a really screwed up town, all but the pizza and hoagie (sub/torpedo) places were -closed- at 1pm.
What is the breakdown again?
Vebran;80854
I'm surprised that no one picked up on this little tidbit. What do you mean you were request to wear a certain attire? If your date asked for it, it would send up all the red flags to me.
Her original plan for that date was to go to one out of a selection of certain local specialty restaurants that have "better-than-casual" dress codes.
But, being Sunday in the middle of a really screwed up town, all but the pizza and hoagie (sub/torpedo) places were -closed- at 1pm.
ROzbeans;80840
So where you at with this? first, second or third base? /wink
What is the breakdown again?
ROzbeans
18 years ago
First = hand holding
second = kissing
third = boobie touching, i'm fairly certain
Home base = SECKS0RZ!
second = kissing
third = boobie touching, i'm fairly certain
Home base = SECKS0RZ!
FyreGarnett
18 years ago
there's nothing wrong with someone requesting a certain level of attire - if it's done right. i've had guys tell me to wear certain things because of where they were taking me and i've made the same request, for the same reason. nothing worse than getting all dolled upa nd having your date show up in ratty jeans, sneakers and a tshirt. that raises a hell of a lot more red flags with me. more than anything though, it's a matter of communication. when i first saw this thread and asked a few of my guy friends, none of them saw anything wrong with her having made this request... most of them said they were actually kind of relieved when their gf's took some control of their wardrobe - most of them are clueless what to wear out and want a females advice/opinion/guidance!! (not all mind you - i've known and dated some rather fashion savvy guys over the years!)
Mileron
18 years ago
I seem to remember:
First: Frenching
Second: Touching over the clothes
Third: Touching under or without clothes, esp below the waist
Home Run: Naughty naughty!
In my list, "first."
ROzbeans;80932
First = hand holding
second = kissing
third = boobie touching, i'm fairly certain
Home base = SECKS0RZ!
I seem to remember:
First: Frenching
Second: Touching over the clothes
Third: Touching under or without clothes, esp below the waist
Home Run: Naughty naughty!
In my list, "first."