Spontaneity in dating
Bajillions of personals profiles on the 'net state:
"I like my men spontaneous."
This has often confused me. Does this mean she wants her man to take her quickly and forcefully in the cloak room of an expensive restaurant? Does it mean that she wants to be kidnapped from work with an overnight bag for a quick getaway?
I'm pondering things I've done recently that could be considered "spontaneous" and the only thing I can think of was taking myself to see a movie with only 5 minutes notice to myself. "Bye, I'm going to a movie." "With who?" "Me, myself and I. Thankfully I only need one ticket." (Made Mom laugh, btw.)
In dating, what is "spontaneous"? Should it be considered "spontaneous" if one of the two interested parties does a little planning? Or is it more like sitting in the kitchen eating and deciding "hey let's go to the shore right now with only what we're wearing."
And yep, can be totally free...hey wanna take a walk...drive...
Or here is a flower I picked for you on the way over to see you...
Spontaneity on the part of both people is a bit more difficult, but can still be done, though since some planning is often required, a give and take exchange of spontaneous events is probably the best way to go.
Of course, I still don't really know why I decided to sneak into the shower behind her after she'd started... that could've ended very badly. Not something I'd recommend. I just got lucky. And... yeah.
I don't quite think I've gotten to the point where that would go off without a hitch. I like my nose and nuts in the pristine condition they're in, thanks.
Of course that's not to say the idea hadn't crossed my mind.
It don't have to be costly or anything grand as Roz stated. Simple things like just comming up behind her and kissing her on her neck while shes at the computer, or cooking etc. Stopping by her work to bring her a snack or bringing home even a single flower,.. its just the little things that you can do on the whim that speak louder then words and really touches the inner core that is woman. o_O
Just have these kinds of things in your head so when you see that opportunity you have all these quick ideas to choose from.