I've done that. I've also been pregnant and it was the most miserable experience of my life. I guess because I never ended up with a baby I remember every last gruesome detail.
Life can be very happy and fulfilling without going through that BS.
You ever...
...sit back and realize that you're content? That everything in your life fits perfectly. The spouse, the kid, the job...the life? This past weekend we had Catherine's 6th birthday party, right? She was deliriously happy with all these screaming kids in our house. She proudly displays the gold medal necklace she won from the Pin the Tail on the donkey contest on her birthday gifts in her room. We spoil the child rotten so she has a bunch of Krypto the superdog displayed on the hutch of her bed. All nicely arranged when she goes to bed, she does it herself. Mike called me in when he checked on her that night and we were like, 'god our kid is so cool.'
Then we went this movie/restaurant thing the next day. It was actually pretty nice. Movie seats with tables and a huge huge movie screen. Mike sat in the middle and Catherine and I both cuddled up to him and watched Madagascar. I had this chicken burrito thing, was ok.
So someone just asked me about my weekend and while I was explaining it, I thought to myself, 'God dang I have a great life.' My daughter doesn't hate me, I dont hate Mike :teehee and my job doesn't suck.
I guess I had an epiphany.
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20 years ago
Gilae
20 years ago
Ugh, sorry to hear that Ry. I think if I went through all of this and then something happened where I didn't get a baby in the end I would be super pissed. I wonder if I'd want to bother again...I'm pretty sure I wouldn't.
Ryala
I've done that. I've also been pregnant and it was the most miserable experience of my life. I guess because I never ended up with a baby I remember every last gruesome detail.
Life can be very happy and fulfilling without going through that BS.
Ugh, sorry to hear that Ry. I think if I went through all of this and then something happened where I didn't get a baby in the end I would be super pissed. I wonder if I'd want to bother again...I'm pretty sure I wouldn't.
Just Erin
20 years ago
Roz, you make me want to have kids. Cut it out.
ROzbeans
20 years ago
It's not for everyone, that's for sure, but I fought the idea of having kids tooth and nail until we decided to do it. We dont regret doing it, but obviously that's not always the case. Definitely wait to have your kids till you're sure.
Addi
20 years ago
I think the thing that makes pregnancy and giving birth tolerable is that everything is a productive pain. Its not a headache, or a broken limb etc. There is a positive outcome from the pain so when we think back at it we think of it as wonderful experience and not a horrible one. I had a fairly easy pregnancy. Very little "morning" sickness. My last trimester I was huge and it was hot as hell out and I had alot of swelling but I already knew that was coming so it was no big deal. Now the second trimester.......I have never felt more healthy emotionally or physically my whole life. I wish I could be 5 months pregnant all the time. My birth sucked, I ended up being in hard core back labor for 3 days ( yes 3 entire days ) until they finally took the baby c-section but I gained something from that pain that is the most incredible thing in the world and if you have never had a child you cannot imagine the love between a parent and their child. Even if you take the person you were most in love with and multiple it by a million it doesnt compare to the love you feel for a child. I really do feel sorry for people that either cannot or choice not to experience that.
Dia
20 years ago
it must be the love thing. because ive never had children and while looking and reading all about the horrible stuff (watching a c-section vid online) i still want to have at least 4 kids. i know i say that now not having experienced any of it but i relate it to my hideous experience when i had my galbladder out and i ate something greasy too soon. worst pain of my life, thought i was going to die type of pain. crying throwing up someone beat me with a baseball bat make it end pain. so much pressure in my abdomen down that if i could of just pushed hard enough it would come (but it wouldnt) cramping , almost blacked out hideousness. In the end it finally came out (once i was hospitalized) and i named it Karen and we took many pictures.
but anyways aside from my sick relation to it, maybe having kids is like a tattoo. while your getting it your not happy about it cuz it hurts. but when its done the pains gone and you have something forever that you like. And then years or months later you go, i want another! and it starts again.
i cant wait. i need to get knocked up!
but anyways aside from my sick relation to it, maybe having kids is like a tattoo. while your getting it your not happy about it cuz it hurts. but when its done the pains gone and you have something forever that you like. And then years or months later you go, i want another! and it starts again.
i cant wait. i need to get knocked up!
Mirabela
20 years ago
I've heard that Gilly's man is a sure bet!
Dia
i cant wait. i need to get knocked up!
I've heard that Gilly's man is a sure bet!