Gayin' It Up!

he said he prefers watching it ... i think that means your cousin adopted a gay kid.

moms raise boy kids all the time while watching soap network and other stupid girl shit. some boys dig it, some boys don't.

there are people out there that hate fantasy or sci-fi or horror. i think they're insane but whatever. My sister hated LOTR. yes, i believe she was either hatched, or adopted. because she 1) doesnt look like ANYONE in our family and 2) she hates LOTR.

omg!!! how could someone hate LOTR =( ok sorry for hijaking your thread. lol

Defintely not from the same genetic pool

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i don't think you can raise a kid gay - but kind of being in that situation... i think i should clarify. I have a small child and am single. i live with my sister and a roommate. there is not a day-to-day male influence in my son's life (not adult anyways - even all the daycare workers are female). the general consensus, is that if this situation continues, he will either be the most sensible male possible, or completely and totally fucked up. the split seems to be male-female (guess who votes for which half! :ptth ).

personally, i do not think that having a small boy watch soaps or other "girlie" shows will matter in the long run, at least as far as sexuality is concerned. same with having little girls play with cars and watch some show about mechanics will matter. people, regardless of age, have preferences, in every aspect of their life.

Welp, Catherine (our daughter) has both a father and a mother present, but I find it ironic that she's growing up a major tom boy. Granted Mike and her get down in the dirt and do all sorts of boy stuff whereas I just sit and watch. I grew up hard core tom boy too though, but as I enter my 30's, I realize I'm delicate =D

It is interesting though...being a single parent of a daughter, I was concerned with her growing up too 'girly' lol...in the sense that I wanted her to grow up strong and opinionated, and not afraid to fall down or take a few punches - not really traits that are always associated with little girls. I 'rough housed' with her from an early age and gave her trucks to play with, as well as legos, books, and dolls, and no matter what she always seemed to gravitate to the dolls and books. She liked wearing jeans, and getting dirty, but she also liked wearing dresses and told me she wanted to be in the "Little Miss Redwood" contest for two years in a row...the third year I distracted her from thinking about it until it was too late, because even though she wouldn't admit it, or even see it possibly, she had a lot less fun participating than she had the first year. My point being that I believe a child is born gay, and not 'created' by whatever influences occur during childhood.

I like tom boys that know when to put on a dress :) My girlfriend now was a Tennis and Basketball player but she managed to be in her homecoming court every year. It works well for me since I grew up a year round athelete and love to play golf, tennis and work out.

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My assistant and I were discussing this when she happened to mention that she really did think that being gay was learned and dropped the term 'demonic possession'. We both blinked at each other and then I busted out laughing. Her and I don't agree on anything religious - on anything at all really so hence my laughing. My reply was, 'this is another thing we don't agree on, huh.' We happily dropped the subject and went back to playing with her baby boy.

I'm glad her and I can disagree and not be nasty about it. We just agree to disagree and move on. It's the most understanding relationship I've had with an adult all my life lol. I did fire her, but I fire her about 4 times a day every day =D

i have a best friend like that, Roz. We've known each other for, oh at least 10 years. There are ALOT of things we simply do not see eye to eye on, but have found that we can discuss our view without getting pissy with each other. we love that we come down on opposite sides of the fence on alot of things (especially religion). hmmm... maybe i should call her and get her input on this one...

(and I'm glad I'm not the only one who "fires" people on a regular basis!)

I am 100% in the category of, you're born what you are. So you may be born gay, or straight, or whatever. With that though, that doesn't protect you from raising a son who's a pussy. Instead of setting shit on fire, maybe he'll be playing house with all the neighborhood girls til he's 12. And to a bunch of asshole guys, it doesn't matter if he is or isn't gay. He's still going to be called a faggot.

But whatever, one of my good friends used to Cage Fight. He was also a dance major in college for a little while before switching to a science. And he did Ballet for like 8 years or something.

I think it's healthy to get both sides. Any one side, in my opinion, leaves you lacking something.

HAHA can't be that delicate i remember calling once to fix photoshop and you made fun of my voice =p

i asked my bud what her take on this was - and just about fell over laughing when she explained her reasoning... she blames the myriad of chemicals we ingest on a regular basis - especially in the last few generations. she said that one was born one way or the other, but that chemicals were at fault - so i asked her how that explained homosexuality in nature... she admitted she hadn't worked that part out yet! (but the cool part is that she didn't get pissy - just expanded her mind a bit to figure that one out!)

There are actual decade long studies being done on the brains (donated after death of course) of homosexuals. What they are finding is that the brain of a gay male works nothing like that of a straight male. So yes, I believe you are born how you are born.

But, everyone has likes and dislikes completely unrelated to which chomosome they carry or which way they swing. Some people love rommance, some horror, some science fiction. Perhaps the young man simply likes looking at the pretty women on What Not to Wear instead of mostly males or aliens on Sci Fi?