Open chat / /vent on / Lillaanya 17 years ago

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Ok so me and Katie are going home for about 3 weeks in May/June for birthdays, etc. My parents are footing the bill.

My mother in law calls and asks if she can fly me and Katie to see them from my parents while we are there because they really can't afford to come see them. I told her that I don't know what the plans really are yet cause we just got the tickets so she should talk to my mom.

My mom calls me today...my MIL wants us to go see her for half the time we are there...my mom is paying close to $1500 for our tickets. The tickets to see her are only about $200 because we will be so much closer to start with. My dad and my brother have already taken vacation from work for the whole time we will be there as well...my dad took all his for the first part and my brother for the last. AND while we are there it will be my mom's bday, Katie's, and my brothers (Katie and my brother share a bday)

So basically I am just going to tell her we won't be able to go out to see them. This should be a fun fight with my hubby when he gets home tonight

/insert condescending eyeroll here

Lessa 17 years ago

I would totally agree with you though, you shoudnt hve to cut a trip thats been paiid for and planned in half to convenience a third party who just wants to take advantage of your families generosity.

Darsa 17 years ago

Absolutely, Lillaanya; that seems very inconsiderate on the in-law's part! Sheesh...

ladyduece 17 years ago

If they really want to see you that bad then they should be the ones to travel to you when you're closer. It should absolutely not be up to your family to arrange something like this when it's been coordinated for time off work and the cost on their end.

I'm all for seeing both sides of the family, and one side helping the other out for a little...but... this just seriously crosses some lines.

Rikr 17 years ago

At the very least, the in-laws should chip in to your family especially if they want half the time, they should pay for half the trip. Just my opinion though. :)

Darsa 17 years ago

Absolutely.

Vishanti 17 years ago

I'd say I'm glad I have no in-laws, but that's not entirely true.

Lillaanya 17 years ago

Well I talked to MIL about doing a couple days only out of the trip and she decided to pass altogether this time. She's disappointed, but will get over it. The one who is throwing a big fit still is my hubby. Now seriously. He is not going on this trip, nor does he ever make any effort to save money to see family, yet he seems to think it is his place to butt in and dictate how and where our trip should go, even though it is my family paying here. It's not like we go home all the time here, except for my grandpa's funeral last summer this is the first actual planned trip home in 3 years. We live so far from family by his choice, not mine.

ROzbeans 17 years ago

=/ We used to fight about visiting family all the time when Catherine was little. It gets better. /hug

Beli 17 years ago

How did your MIL find out about your original trip in the first place? Did your husband say something to her or did it come up in conversation with you and her? Just trying to see how this chain of events got started. I completely agree with you that this was a trip you planned and your parents are footing the bill, the time allotted belongs to your parents. Your husband doesn't really get much of a say. If he wants his family to see his kids, he needs to make the effort to make that happen on his own time/expense.