Public Displays of Affection
I'm not sure how to articulate this question, so a bit of background.
I've been with my girlfriend for over 19 months now. We "fit" each other. All the fuzzy happy romantical movie type stuff, including the whole "real life with problems" thing.
When walking together, we hold hands. Sometimes, we wrap arms around shoulder/waist. We stop in unoccupied store aisles and share a hug.
She leans on me when we're watching TV/movies together.
I'll rest my hands on her shoulders if I'm standing behind her when she's sitting.
I find myself rubbing her hand or arm if she extends it to me.
I hold the door for her and place my hand on her back as she walks through.
I don't particularly care if anyone sees - I love her, am in love with her.
Yet, I was told tonight (a repeat of something that was off-handedly mentioned twice, that I recall, over the last year) by someone that, for other people, watching "PDA" like this makes them immensely uncomfortable and embarassed.
But... I don't understand why. (Mostly because there wasn't an explanation more than "it just does.")
Do PDA make you uncomfortable? Do you engage in them? Or do you believe/understand this position, regarding being embarassed by PDA, and for all intents and purposes "hide" your gestures for complete privacy?
People don't show each other that they care about one another enough now days, (not PDA but in gen).
What you describe I really don't refer to as PDA at all. The whole sucky face, groping etc that was what I was raised with knowing as "PDA" .. they just need to get over themself and go on about their business imho... Just ignore them. this is where many issues today start. Ppl stop showing they care about others infront of people then it becomes a habbit and soon we just forget about it at all ... sad sad sad.
I think it is wonderful that you do do these things and I hope that you continue to. Ppl need that constant assurance, no matter what they say, we all have that desire its just human nature.
Showing affection in that way you described is way different in my book of what PDA is. If a couple looks like they are adutioning for a porn movie.. thats the one thing I find tacky and not appropriate for public eyes.
Keep on doing what you're doing..and let others be jealous you have such a loving, respectful relationship.
I think it's fine to moderate your behavior, and shows you're thinking of the whole group/general public/restaurant/jail cell, not just you and your sigother. It's also fine to be affectionate and show how highly you regard your sigother's feelings/needs. Where people choose to draw the line really depends on the situation.
In any case, I think it's pretty tacky to complain about someone's PDA level, especially in such a passive aggressive manner (-some- people feel uncomfortable - who can really say why, they just do). Next time stab him in the eye and run away.
I never refuse gifts... ... ...