Does the duckface actually 'work'?

I'm glad you touched on this Roz...because as someone in your age bracket (I'm 36) I can honestly say the exact opposite. I think it's probably because my father is 16 years older then my my mother but the reason I'd be inclined to go after a younger man is mostly because they are more open to change. (Here's where I go into generalities...fair or not fair, my opinion) Men tend to be pretty simple people anyway. (Eat, sleep, work, sex...play some video games...repeat) As they get older they often are more apt (then women) to be set in their ways...uncomfortable with change. Younger men are open to new ideas, are excited by trying new things. As I say, a generality, but it is my perception. In the meantime what are most women up to? Every woman I know is involved in an unusual 'project'. Whether it be in the arts, or going back to school, or travelling...women don't stop in their 20s from going after these sorts of things...regardless of the deep sighs and rolls of eyes they are probably getting from their husbands. When a man suddenly decides to have an unusual project...people call it a mid-life crisis. Why? Because it is uncommon for a man to adjust his lifestyle to something new and exciting. This is not always true of course...but there is a reason why men in comedies are portrayed as sitting on couches and watching tv with a beer while their wives are portrayed as going out doing various things. (See All in the Family...Married with Children...The Simpsons)

So I guess my point is, at 30-something a woman is looking for something new and exciting...enter 20-something hunky guy who is just starting out and has all sorts of fantastic ideas of what his future is going to be but no idea on how to get there. Hi2u project!

And that is not even touching on the very real fact that women reach their peak in their mid 30s and men in their late teens. And this I know from very personal experience. A 17 year old male and a 35 year old male has a very different libido...inspite of which brain they think with. There is thinking and there is DOING.

Of course that has absolutely nothing to do with duckface. Which, unless meant to be funny (Bluesteel) is in fact absolutely ridiculous.

As a man, I have to say that I agree with your perception 100%.

Dammit, I was born a few years too late! Although I am currently sporting a half brown body... I happened to be on the south side of the vehicle most of the way, so have a weeks worth of passenger seat tan. I did most of the driving at night.

I didn't know that a) that pose had a name, or b) that this duckface was considered attractive in some way. I just thought it was people being idiots lol. A shot of just cleavage bothers me, in the sense that do these women think they have nothing better to offer? Or do they think that men care only about boobs or looks? Ab shots are the same to me really... so he works out, what else does he do?

Admittedly, I do take like a billion shots of myself when updating my profile pic, trying to capture an angle where I don't look like a complete dork. But it's never crossed my mind to pull a duckface, or any other weird shot. I eventually pick the one where my smile looks natural (I'm very self conscious when taking pics of myself, makes me feel vain lol), and that reflects my personality best.

I often get referred to as a lesbian in real life. Other women are drooling over Jacob and other such men, and I'm considered odd for not doing so. I mean, sure he's hot and all, but he's just a boy in my eyes. I don't get all hot and flustered watching him. I prefer older (not like old men, just older than me) men, men that have experienced life and know what they want and aren't going to waste my time with juvenile games. I suppose in a primeval sense, I would want the hunter that knows where to find the food and how to hunt it, not the reckless youth who is more concerned with proving his manhood. And so I remain single, having yet to find anyone who comes near my (probably too high) expectations, and so they think I'm gay. Meh.

My room mate even brought up the subject yesterday, remarking on the fact that far less attractive people than me have frequent sexual partners. I am not generally considered a physically attractive woman, and when I say that I receive the whole self esteem talk. But I do not think of myself to have low self esteem. I look at it as that I know who I am and I know my attractive qualities. I'm overweight, I have wonky teeth, a big nose and my hair always looks like I've been dragged through a hedge backwards at high speed. When men my age and younger look at me, I see their look of disdain before they look away and avoid me. But thats ok, because I have no desire for people so shallow, no matter how hot they are. And then there are the ones who think I'll be easy because 'I probably don't get laid much', who don't even ask my name before they are groping my ass and trying to stick their tongue down my throat. But I don't need them either... they might think I'd be flattered because I can't get anyone else, but I'm not. I'd rather remain alone all my life than lower myself to that. I have too much pride in myself. I'm a clever woman with a colourful personality, selfless for the right people and I have plenty of love to give. I know he is out there somewhere, the one who will see ME.

And I'm not pulling any duckface to catch him :P

I have this same problem, but probably more due to my anxiety than my self-consciousness (though I suppose they're interrelated). I can't even stand to look in a mirror with other people around. I always feel like people will think I'm self-absorbed or something, and no matter how absurd I know the notion to be, I can't shake the feeling.




I have this same problem, too. I had some sort of sexual epiphany at a young age and stopped chasing after sex (with some exceptions *cough*) pretty early. Plus I went through this whole other thing, and now I don't really like being around people too much - I need a lot of "me time" and a lot of "quiet time", and I don't like people just randomly touching me unless I'm feeling especially gregarious. These, and a few other things, in combination with ridiculously high expectations, leads to people thinking I am gay. My parents ask my sister about it, which is really fucking ironic, because I'm straight as an arrow, and she's a lesbian... yet they think I'm the homosexual. I don't even care enough to confront them and correct them. Let them think I'm gay. Who cares. If they have anything to say about it, they will be sorry, lol. They're pretty conservative.




Word.

Yay it's not just me! :)

There's a conversation for the boards...why do people assume that if you're a realist and say X about yourself that if it's negative "you're being too hard on yourself" or if it's positive "you're being arrogant". If I say "I have nice legs but a fat ass." it is neither being too hard on myself nor is it being arrogant. It's just plain fact as I see it. Why isn't ok to make judgement calls on yourself but it's ok to do it to someone else. It's a pet peeve.

I agree! When I tell people "I can't sing" or "I'm not artistic" it's just a blunt statement about my abilities. I know what I'm good at, and what I"m not good at. Immediately though people "take pity" on me, or "ooh you sing just fine!" - I really don't! I sing like a duck on cocaine. I'm ok with that! I used a lot of exclamations in this paragraph, which is ironic since it's more of an observation than a pet peeve for me. Ok a slight pet peeve.

Backhanded compliments are the best!

http://verydemotivational.files.wordpress.com/2010/07/demotivational-posters-bobble-heads.jpg

That bitch is famous for being a short hooker.

Is there a backhanded compliment in there for our friend Snooki?

:teehee