I think that by treating children like idiots, you only succeed in raising idiot children.
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My mother was very ill raised. I wont get into my grandmother, thats a whole nother thread by itself ( :roll: ) but she treated my mother in that way that you hear on tv shows and you laugh, 'cept my mother didnt laugh. Youve heard it too "Children are to be seen not heard." "If Id have wanted your opinions on anything Id have given them too you, and then slapped your face for testing me" "I brought you into this world, Ill take you out" etc were all things that my mother heard growing up.
Ex.
My mother stated as a very young girl she wanted a hair cut. Yes this was an unusual thing with my grandma, my mother had long brown hair in a pony tail. So my grandma, without hesitating, grabbed up her pony tail, and just under the rubber band, chopped it off with a pair of scissors, and siad "there ya go".
Once, my mother (very ver very lil girl, like 3) told my grandma that she had been "touched" by my gramma;s brother that came to visit. My grandma slapped her into the floor board and told her not to tell lies about people she loved.
Point being, she was treated, to put it mildly, as if she was the lowest of the low, and spent her whole entire life feeling that way. Shes a lil more than nutty now, shes spent 41 years of being confused. She and my dad were married almost 20 years, but beyond that, she went a lil off the deep end. Its no damn wonder why. Teaching your kids that they are beneath you, whether or not its to the extreme my gramma did, brings up a confused and very timid child that turns into a confused and scared adult. I know we arent discussing in terms of things this bad, but I wanted to emphasize that kids know more than you think, and now that my mother is grown, she remembers these things, and hates her mom most of all for just not listening. Or treating her as an equal. And if you think about it, the way she was treated all boils down to her being "just a child" with no real feel of whats going on. yeah right.
BTW the only reason I call her grandma today on these boards is to avoid long other names or confusion or just plain obsenities. I dont call her that irl. If you only knew some of the things she has done, it shames me to even think shes family. Shes truly on of those people you see on tv that are fucked in the head.
